is not keeping up well. Any of these days could be her last. Dressed in a
yellow tee and petticoat, she is hardly able to hold her lean and tender body
all by herself and rests it against the love of her life, her man, who sits
beside her all day long, all night long, stroking her hair with caress, just
like the way he must have done when they met the first time. The more his
gentle fingers move through her hair, the more she cuddles herself in his lap.
There are no words of exchange between them. No tears. No complaints. No parting
hugs and kisses. Just a sense of deep love which they will hold for each other
forever after, a feeling that even death will not let them part with.
was exactly one year ago, in one of these monsoon months, that I first met Asha
during our evening walks in residential apartment lawns. Young damsels and
aging ladies matching each others’ stride with swift paces and connected to each
other with one common perennial cause – “How the hell do I lose weight?” We’d
hardly moved some fifty steps ahead when suddenly merciless rains hit us and
creating a big hullabaloo, everyone began running around with double rate of
knots to look for the nearest shelter. Except for four crazy women who had ditched
their sports shoes, cell phones and wristwatches to look up right in the face
of sky and taste the bountiful showers that had already begun soaking them from
head to toe, torrentially. It was us! Drenched, dancing in rain and laughing at
each other! That evening, the relentless downpours got four girls connected with
the petrichor of friendship. Who knew that for one of them, this could be her
last walk in the earthly rains?
month later, Asha had begun complaining about her backache. On our walks, she
would request us to bring our pace down so that she could match with our
walking tempo. We kept cheering her up to take stock of her health by
increasing nutrition supplements until one day she suddenly broke us the fearful
news of carcinoma growing upon her in fourth stage.
before the news would sink in our minds, she’d invited us for a coffee over a
karaoke night at her home. We were amazed! This is certainly not the way the
big-C news is meant to be broken. Dipped in cappuccino froth? Humming a
Bollywood song on microphone? Dancing along with her husband? Had this woman
lost it completely? Or, is the entire family nuts?
the next few months, Asha proved she was indeed a little beyond nuts to be
fighting the big battle with such bravery and stealth that it certainly fell beyond
the forte of a human in flesh and blood. She was not just an ordinary warrior.
every chemotherapy, she took a stroll at the beachside with her man, hand in
hand, watching the sun set romantically behind frothy waters. With every strand
of the hair she lost, she flaunted her latest stock of printed scarves and gave
us hands-on tutorials on our much besotted requests on how to wear it
Afro-style. At one point, she’d laughingly remarked why she ever wasted huge
sum on re-bonding her hair when all it took was a shaved head and a silk scarf to
make her look drop dead gorgeous? With every blood platelet that her body was
giving away, she was spending meaningful time with her friends sitting beside
the fountain pond in the green lawns, now that she could not walk much. A
sanitizer, a mineral water bottle and a mobile is all she ever carried in the
name of constant companions.
every passing month that got her weaker, she was looking towards life with even
more gratitude, love and admiration.
flew by. We kept meeting on and off.
one day, I was told I must see Asha while it is still time.
walk inside her immaculately done home. Her bedroom is lit dim. I take a look
around and see every nook and corner decorated with artifacts and
embellishments that must have been picked after a thousand deliberations of an expert
aesthetic eye. The décor is free of clutter and completely sorted, just like
how Asha has always been. Too much water retention has left her face and body
swollen while she barely manages to see us through her puffed eyes. Her tender
hands have several bruises of repeated blood transfusions that she undertakes
every fourth day. Her salt and pepper hair has grown back after an ineffective
Chemotherapy having been stopped in the middle of treatment. Medicines are no
longer useful to her. Yet, there is a faint smile on her lips when she sees us.
The smile that mocks the tyranny of poor death playing on her frailty, but not
being able to conquer her free spirit!
doesn’t talk much and prefers to rest in silence. There was a time she would find it ridiculous to keep giving unnecessary
explanations to foolish visitors who came to sympathize with her or who made
her feel weak by reminding what she’s going through. However, she’d still call
for some of us. But today, she’s too weak to figure out who has come to see her.
I wish she would jump off from her bed and ask me to pick up mic to sing her a
karaoke song for her or insist me to write a long essay on her wild travelling experiences
or take me to a tour of her terrace garden, every plant of which she has groomed
like her little babies.
wish, like always, she asks me how she looks so that I could tell her that earlier
she looked just beautiful and now she even looks brave. She may appear pale and
weak but her fighter’s spirit has put Oncologists who’ve given up on her to embarrassment.
She may have to bear intense physical pain but she’s still a source of strength
to everyone around her. Like a warrior in the dark, she resonates with her
name’s true meaning – the ‘hope’ to live, love, dream, dare, inspire, and all
with such bravery that puts even death to shame. If that is not a celebration
of life, what is?
night is deepening for those who are sure of their next morning. For the
warriors who are putting up a fight all night long, this one moment is all they
ever wanted. No one can stop them from making the most of it, not even the
horror of an impending death. In the end, it’s not the years in life that counts
but the life in years that does. A lesson Asha wants us to learn, a little hard way
To a woman who is a fashionista, my wardrobe might look a tad boring. That does not mean that my lifestyle is! In my growing up years, between books, hobbies, friends, family, a budding career and carefree chortles, everything else seemed to get into order except a stylish closet. Here's a teeny-weeny list of 20 things that indicate you might, like me, be a person with a "minimalist" taste in fashion.
1) You think a low-maintenance hairstyle is the best and anything else is a waste of time. Letting tresses fall loose, a ponytail or a bun is enough to last a lifetime. Curlers, straighteners, chic hairpins or bands are unearthed from the depths of your bottom drawer only as emergency measures for situations where decking up is compulsory.
2) Wearing glasses is just simpler than putting on contact lenses every morning, unless perhaps it's your wedding and the frames clash with the Kundan jewellery foisted on you lovingly by your mother. Why the heck must anyone trade comfort for style?
3) Your head spins at the thought of matching handbags with outfits. Two or three bags in safe colours and in a couple of styles are more than enough to fit at least 90% of occasions, thank you very much.
"Wearing glasses is just simpler than putting on contact lenses every morning, unless perhaps it's your wedding and the frames clash with the Kundan jewellery..."
4) High heels sound fascinating but despite owning a pair or two of them, there's nothing like slipping into comfortable shoes or slippers.
5) When you do decide put on high heels for a party, you end up regretting it within an hour or so as you totter and teeter around the room. Back at home, the first thing you do is toss them aside and thank the stars for the wonderful floaters you have waiting by your bed.
6) Your wardrobe is dominated by jeans (often in similar shades of blue) and ordinary t-shirts, with perhaps a few stylish dresses weeping with loneliness in a couple of hangers pushed to the side. Dressing up for an outing with friends means a loose shrug and a pair of sunglasses to add to the everyday ensemble, while a coat thrown on top comprises semi-formal wear.
7) Earrings, rings and neck pieces look best in a locker that you open up not more than once or twice in a year. On a regular day, a wristwatch (or maybe a bracelet coupled with your much-guarded wedding ring) is your only adornment.
8) But you aren't completely hopeless. Since wristwatches make it to your list, you might just have a collection of interesting dials!
9) Most of the accessories you've got in your treasure trove are gifts from family or friends. You think it's wasteful to spend money on trinkets.
"If some women paint their faces with all the precision of a Japanese miniaturist, you're more of a Jackson Pollock yourself."
10) A shopping expedition may include a long list of things, ranging from gourmet items to the latest bestsellers. But you'll be giving the make-up counter and trendy boutiques a pass.
11) You can just about figure out how to apply lipstick and eyeliner. You hear friends and magazines rave about various mousses and gels and concealers and primers but you're not so sure you could identify them in a line-up.
12) What's it with all those gazillion types of make-up brushes? If some women paint their faces with all the precision of a Japanese miniaturist, you're more of a Jackson Pollock yourself.
13) Oh, when you say an eye-liner, it's black you are talking about and when you say lipstick, you mean about three shades total in your vanity box.
14) Yes, you did watch a magical YouTube tutorial on make-up and decided to try it out. You didn't transform into Aishwarya Rai, but turns out you might have career prospects as the make-up technician for the local circus.
15) Soap and moisturizer are quite enough for your beauty regimen. Tonics, lotions, potions, eaus and parfums make you giddy, and not in a good way.
16) You're a nail nudist - no array of colours for you. And you can't be bothered to maintain long talons, even if you do admire them on other people.
17) Packing for a holiday is easy-peasy. You have a short and sweet list of items to carry which can be packed in minutes.
"You may have considered colouring your hair on occasion, but you've likely decided that a natural progression to salt-and-pepper in the right look for you."
18) You give blank looks to people talking about fashion brands like Prada, Louis Vuitton, Gucci, Chanel and likewise. This is the kind of conversation you have nothing to contribute to.
19) You may have considered colouring your hair on occasion, but you've likely decided that a natural progression to salt-and-pepper in the right look for you.
20) "Who has time for all this?" is your favourite justification for eschewing fashionable things you can't handle dexterously. Saying this makes you feel less guilty about thumbing your nose at fashion. Besides, you love that you can be so carefree
For the last one
decade, like dedicated patriots of the country, this year again we chased the
newspaper’s international section to follow the fancy dresses Aishwarya Rai,
Sonam Kapoor or Mallika Sherawat flaunted at the mighty 69th Cannes’
red carpet. Though we may or may not have a minuscule idea of fashion trending around the globe but opinionated that we are, we didn't let go of a single
opportunity to discuss, praise and criticize the dressing sense of our
Bollywood ladies at Cannes.
So much that conversations
on Cannes Film Festival has almost begun to sound as drab and boring as the ensembles
and make-ups of celebrities, barring a few.
[Picture courtesy: The Indian Express newspaper]
Recently when Sonam
Kapoor wore a white gown by Ralph and Russo making the fashion analysts gawky
with praise, somewhere a geeky scientist may have sat wondering how interesting
a mopping invention it could have otherwise made? If Sonam was to walk around
in my apartment corridors just once in a day wearing the mop, she’d have sent
the entire team of sweepers for a ride. Alas! The pretty mopping device in
white turned out to be a one-time wonder for cleaning up just the Red Carpet.
Suddenly, we saw
entire Twitterati going crazy with amazing analogies. From dosa, to rumali
roti, to waking up from bed with the bedsheet wrapped around, to milk spilled on the carpet, her dress kept
social media amusingly busy for days. As Sonam and her bandwagon heroines with
flowing attires attended to Swachh Cannes campaign, I leave you to figure out
how these ladies must have used rest rooms to relieve themselves?
[Picture courtesy: The Indian Express newspaper]
Meanwhile, our forever favourite Aishwarya Rai
Bachchan once again grabbed the eye balls with her purple lipstick leaving us
to wonder what breakfast was she served at the Cannes – maybe, a plateful of
jamun or an overdose of black currant ice cream? Or maybe, she mistook her
daughter’s colour palette for a lip tint? Or maybe, the fan inside her couldn’t
resist trying out Japanese purple lipstick Joey used in the classic scene from
one of Friends episodes? Some even believed she may have got kissed by a smurf
a night before!!! Whatever the reason be, our queen of all things nice and beautiful,
with her cool looks managed to get the nation’s attention distracted from
summer’s soaring temperature yet again.
[Picture courtesy: The Indian Express newspaper]
Somewhere in the
hullaballoo of fashion madness, emerged a face that we’d almost forgotten to
bits. Mallika Sherawat! Blue, white, plain, bare, bold or wear whatever, the
nation wants to know her secret hideout for last one year? Without any single
decent movie in her kitty or a fashion brand to brag about, she must be a
superwoman to have cracked a meaty deal landing her to the prestigious
glitterati of the Cannes.
And who wouldn’t? Isn’t
Cannes the hottest selling cupcake for celebrities who wants to show their
inevitable presence in the fashion world at a time when all eyes across the
globe is set upon it? Deals, endorsements, connections and publicity are just bonuses
in addition to a splendidly paid French vacation, near picturesque beaches,
restaurants, cafés and boutiques of the Riviera.
Besides, everything that Cannes Red
Carpet has to offer is little compared to the mystery and cheesy gossips that
go behind making ones appearance at the red carpet become a subject of
everyone’s talk for long time. When “Hush, hush, the girl is back!” is so worth
the Cannes, why even think of the Can-nots!!
worry about your daughter’s schooling. Merit and talent never go in waste.”
Those were the parting words from my
kids’ previous school principal as we bid her adieu to step in the new city of
Lucknow consequent to shifting of my work base upon an official transfer.
I’ve never had to worry about my kids’
schooling. They are smart and happy girls with nimble wits. Besides, they are
just six and ten. The very age in which chasing butterflies, climbing trees, mud
wrestling or smudging pastels are far more important than sitting under a lamp
cracking a competitive exam.
I was wrong. I was, rather, proven wrong.
After running around from pillar to post
to seek admissions for my two wards ever since the time we moved to this new city,
all schools of repute here dreadfully disappointed us – “No vacancies in
Holla! NO VACANY in classes as lower as
Kindergarten? Are they kidding me? Is it
an IAS seat that my five year old is competing for? Or is she running for a
Mayor’s election with calculative number of chairs? Or an employment opportunity
that may have limited vacancies?
Every year, January to March season
looms like an impending horror to parents seeking admission of their tiny tots
for admission to Nursery and Elementary classes in a new formal school. Poor
kid fails to understand why suddenly his reading and writing has become so
central to the parent’s being. Bribed with a chocolate or lured with toys, by
hook or crook, the li’l fellow is convinced to work hard enough to be able to
crack the labyrinth of school entrance exams or interviews.
Even the millennial mommy who we might have
seen as representing the new-age woman changes her avatar from a loving Maria
Rainer to a strict Nanny McPhee. She doesn’t hesitate a bit to enroll her four
year old in crash course coaching classes.
And why not? The hapless parents are
themselves mortified to hell by now thinking of what misery may befall if their
kid doesn’t make it to a prestigious school. Next what follows is visiting the
school premise (or a dependable and updated website) day in and day out like it
was some harebrained religious ritual. While the utterly appalled parents would
have already struggled with curtness from the school’s pricey reception staff
and security guards, consider them hitting jackpot in case they get to speak directly
to the Principal, without any middleman.
Then comes the day when the school gates
are sprung open for selling of admission forms. The day when media hovers over
the varsity to get a front-page news and pictures of harrowed parents who’ve
perhaps been waiting in queue, hours before dawn broke. Unshaven, dishevelled,
half awake or sleepwalking, the only thing that runs in their mind is to get
hold of that precious A4 size printed one-pager from school that they think can
change their child’s destiny forever. Some smart ones come wearing sports
shoes, wisely anticipating that any fine moment the queue may splinter and they
may have to push, jostle, shove, snatch and madly run cutting through the mahakumbh of parents, before the school
declares forms ‘all sold out’.
Subsequently begins the gruesome task of
arranging tens of documents to be enclosed along with the admission form.
Transfer certificate, migration certificate, birth certificate, catechism
certificate (in case the school is a Catholic one), previous school’s
mark sheet, parent’s qualification degrees, character certificate (What!! You didn’t know that a six to ten old
could have a questionable character? You must be foolish!) and in some
controversial cases, even a packet of crisp green stuff. Ah well, isn’t
donation to school just a charity? Finally, why to forget the typical précis
that parents are made to write in the form on topic, “Why do you want your
child to get into ‘this’ school?”. Ha! No worries, there are hirable trainers
available in the market to help parents deal with this tricky one.
All the needful list of to-dos noted and
complied with, one still remains. Enter ‘jugaad’, the distinctive word in
Indian context for fixing up anything not working out. The jugaad may be human,
cash, kind, orison, power or politics and you never know, might just bring the
ward a vacancy out of nowhere. Isn’t that amusing? Meant for highly desperate
parents and contingent upon their good luck (read, powerful resources),
everybody knows jugaad exists but can’t find where.
Well, while all this brouhaha is
going around, the poor little Harry Potter and Hermione Granger who think of
school as an interesting Hogwarts have no clue what lies ahead. They are made
to practice writing pages after pages everyday and rehearse lines after lines
by heart for the interview. On the d-day of their competitive exam, the palaver
increases. Prayers, kaala teeka, chandan, last minute instructions and a long
list of ‘how to sit, stand and behave’ in front of the interviewer, are passed
by the parents.
Then come results! For those who
couldn’t make it, it’s another similar and gruelling year of harassment ahead
and for those who did, well, “Congratulations! Pappu paas ho gaya.”
This year, after a long over-due wait,
both my little girls, one like a careless butterfly and the other like a
quicksilver fish, will appear for their so-called formal school entrance exams.
I hope I don’t make the mistake of forcing our fish to fly and butterfly to
swim or make them both run the marathon race of my desperation. Just wish me
luck! ____________________________________________________________ [ Originally published on Women's Web magazine, March 9th 2016]
This article was first published on Women's Web on 08th March 2016, on the occasion of International Women's Day. Here's a reproduction of the article collected from the archives that makes sense not just on IWD but the whole year through.
In the middle of an important official meeting, my mobile gives three continuous beeps. It might be important, so I pause and take a look – it could be one from a long distance colleague who is simultaneously and as aggressively involved in the annual HR appraisal process as I was, or from my parents staying far away from us, or from kids at home who may have wreaked havoc in absence of their utterly busy mommy.
But presto! It is a far more important message that runs like this – “Comfortable cotton salwar kameez for summer, with special discount up to 70% on Women’s Day… for women who deserve.”
I am aghast. For women who deserve? For heaven’s sake, which woman would not deserve to wear a comfortable cotton salwar kameez? Besides, nobody in the global advertisement world is concerned about my right to deserve ‘equal work equal pay’ but is very interested to help me buy a much deserving dress at a discounted rate on an impending Women’s Day!
Messages like this one suddenly remind me that 8 of March is once again around the corner and a lot more ‘deserving’ rewards are waiting for us women to cash on. Like there’d be one or two formal invitations to attend seminars on the rise of womanhood, innumerable gift offers luring an otherwise forgetful husband to remind his lady love how special she is and a couple of events in the city calling for participation on emancipation of fairer sex in modern times.
Those who’d not be prepared enough for such heavy doses of intellectualism would alternatively be vying for get-togethers in the name of IWD (that’s how gen-internet refers to the day) to chat, gossip, make merry over shades of lipstick and new wine, share vicious laughter and raise a toast to the new-age wonder women they think they are.
And that’s about it! Over and out! Beyond the furores, it is another ironical story that even if the entire elite gentry of this social fanfare are brought together under one roof, it would comprise a minuscule 7-10% of the population who celebrate the IWD.
It was in one in these happening women circles a few days ago, that a common friend needed help to lodge an official complaint against harassment and abuse by her former boyfriend. To our not so utter disbelief, she could hardly find any support from her uber-modern party friends.
Some claimed to be busy. Some did not want to indulge in someone else’s personal affairs. Some were fearful about handling the aftermath of being involved in a complaint. Some were suddenly remorseful about the girl’s inciting behaviour towards her boyfriend.
Whatever their reasons, her ‘much dependable’ female coterie conveniently managed to escape a chance to endorse and support women’s rights in true spirit.
The bubble of Women’s day celebration has but a fragile skin. One prick of a challenge and plop! It bursts. What can be more disheartening to note is that it is largely the women themselves who year after year and generations after generations keep bloating the water bubble with the futile air of gender discrimination.
A few days ago, when my neighbour was blessed with a baby and we rushed in to congratulate, her tempestuous mother-in-law uncannily interrupted, “Why a treat? It is her third girl child.” Even before we could get over her annoying statement, she butted in again to cajole the new mommy by saying, “Chalo, koi baat nahi…..jaisi jiski kismat?” Read (Hard) Luck!
I wasn’t as disheartened by her judgmental comment as I was about the fact that it came from another woman! It is certainly baffling why women act so foolishly sometimes. Instead of teaming up with each other for the benefit of us all, we wilfully fall in a self-dug filthy pit.
At ‘karvachauth’, don’t we raise our life partners on to a pedestal by fasting the whole day long and praying for their long life, as if our own is any less important? At ‘rakshabandhan’, don’t we again place our brothers a step above by seeking a pledge of protection from them, no matter how protective we ourselves might sometimes have been in raising them up? At a ‘kanyadaan’ don’t we often look for the eldest man in the family to pitch in on behalf of the bride’s widowed mother, thus depriving her of the privilege?
How unfortunate that a woman’s freedom to choose is devoured by what her close kin want her to choose. Like a career which is safe for her matrimony in future (whoever has heard of parents encouraging their girls to become wrestlers?) or the choice of dresses she must put on (short skirts is her invitation to wanting danger).
Even the right of reproduction is not her sole right. When must she bear her child? Who bestows legitimacy on the baby, by law? Can she reject her pregnancy? Must she surrogate? To bring her own baby to this world through her own body is not considered her decision but a collective moral pronouncement by the entire family.
It is not surprising that while some of us have the advantage in reading, commenting and celebrating Women’s Day ordeals, half of India’s as much worthy women warriors struggle day in and day out to meet their daily bread and butter – Working in open farms in some remote village. Labouring under the fearful sun carrying bricks on their heads while they build our houses. Doing our dishes and cleaning our homes to make them fit enough for celebrations. Some struggle to make it to school and some never do.
I’d rather think of Women’s Day remembering my old world grandmother who knew nothing of the international day but never missed a chance to stand up for our poor domestic help whenever her ruthless husband resorted to violence upon her. To an extent that at one point of time, the petite, skinny, seventy year old woman challenged a mob of fiery young men who were trying to outrage the poor girl’s modesty.
The idea is but simple – Walk the talk!
Until we get the majority of our women folk to be a part of the Women’s Day hubbub, it will remain but a mythical bubble created by the elite, privileged and happening people.
I will spend the day ditching chocolates, flowers and careless chortles in a party and instead remembering the inspiring women who have created a difference to women’s lives. And you?
Indian Hindu wedding is like being a part of cast of a fully fledged Bollywood
blockbuster. The show begins with thumping sound of loud music and ends with baraatis burning the dance floor hot.
Who cares for the half bald men with fat tummies doing a belly move on a
Katrina Kaif number or the overly dressed aunties (sometimes even more decked
up than the bride herself) shaking their booties to a Daler Mehndi Bhangra rap.
As long as songs keep playing one after the other, the entire floor…err….
roadside follows the musical command of the band,
baja and baraat.
when you have a life partner who is not only coy about dancing publicly but is
also unfortunately blessed with two left feet, all you are left is to either
keep cheering the already half-crazy crowd with your claps or join them all alone
while your poor ol’ man stares you from a distance returning unpromising smiles.
Well, by now
you may have guessed that the discreditable dancing couple would be ‘us’. And
this how our dancing-saga started some fourteen years ago.
each other as fresh and young love-birds, soon to get married, we were offered
to participate in a couple dancing contest at the district level. I haven’t
still been able to figure out whether it was out of sheer excitement or out of
sheer mockery of our inabilities to dance together that few of our seriously-
thoughtful friends got our names registered without seeking our prior
permission. When the idea was brought before us, we had but two choices. Either
quit fearing a face-loss or face ignoring hoots and eggs!!
Attending an Indian Hindu wedding is like being a part
of cast of a fully fledged Bollywood blockbuster. The show begins with thumping
sound of loud music and ends with baraatis
burning the dance floor hot. Who cares for the half bald men with fat tummies
doing a belly move on a Katrina Kaif number or the overly dressed aunties
(sometimes even more decked up than the bride herself) shaking their booties to
a Daler Mehndi Bhangra rap. As long as songs keep playing one after the other,
the entire floor…err…. roadside follows the musical command of the band, baja and baraat.
However, when you have a life partner who is not
only coy about dancing publicly but is also unfortunately blessed with two left
feet, all you are left is to either keep cheering the already half-crazy crowd
with your claps or join them all alone while your poor ol’ man stares you from
a distance returning unpromising smiles.
Well, by now you may have guessed that the
discreditable dancing couple would be ‘us’. And this how our dancing-saga started
some fourteen years ago.
While dating each other as fresh and young
love-birds, soon to get married, we were offered to participate in a couple
dancing contest at the district level. I haven’t still been able to figure out
whether it was out of sheer excitement or out of sheer mockery of our
inabilities to dance together that few of our seriously- thoughtful friends got
our names registered without seeking our prior permission. When the idea was
brought before us, we had but two choices. Either quit fearing a face-loss or
face ignoring hoots and eggs!!
Without much mulling over, it was obviously was a
big ‘No’ from my side until my
partner, strangely the weaker of the two dancers, insisted that we take up the
challenge. Not just the challenge of dancing but also the challenge to begin
doing difficult and funny tasks together. After what he said with a charming
smile, one and one was no longer two but
As least that is what I’d thought until the time
we began rehearsing. Despite meticulous planning, help from a trained jive
performer and step-by-step demonstration like kindergartners on the song was “Itna na mujhse tu pyaar badha…” what
seemed to turn out was anything but a perfect ballroom happy and boppy
dance. Right in the first move trying to swing across, we bumped our heads into
each other and in no seconds, he managed to knock me off giving me a swollen
lump on my forehead.
quit! Gathering my broken hopes and wearing the madly-in-love
gleeful smile back, we continued rehearsing subsequent steps, only to end it up
even more grouse. With every heroic knee lift that my man did, he ended up
passionately stomping with all his might on my tender feet. The lyrics of the
romantic number kept getting punctuated with moans, grumbles and
By now, all my patient nerves were giving away and I couldn’t
bear it continuing even few hours longer. Nevertheless, before we would start rehearsing
the finale steps, I like a cautious wise girl, forewarned him about the “really
serious” implications on our relationship that could follow, thus, dropping a
hint for him to catch!
As the music rolled-on, there he moved towards me, in a poised
and gentlemanly gait, neatly lifting me up in both his arms, looking right into
my eyes, rocking me from one side to other on the beautiful, romantic lyrics of
the old world and just when I was ready to tuck myself closer to him, suddenly his
grip weakened, he stumbled and dropped me on the floor with a loud thud!!! In a
flash of a nanosecond, there I was, the heroine of the show, lying flat on the
ground and half-wet having dashed myself on a water jug kept nearby.
Before I could even gather up my lost embarrassment, I saw my
partner dropping himself on ground next to me to give company and pouring the
remaining water from the jug on himself to match my wet looks. He looked silly
but funnily cute trying to make up for the heinous mistake he’d committed.
Our neatly planned out dance act had turned into a crazy
fiasco, albeit a delightful one. All my
anger vanished with whoosh and we sat
on floor laughing out loud for many cosy minutes, holding hand-in-hand and cracking-up
at what had happened. Those few hours of
happy moments were worth living a thousand years.
What followed for the next few days were rigorous rehearsals,
sequential bumping, stomping and repeated falling down but laughing away our follies
in each other’s joyous company. By the end of the week, we had prepared before
us an imperfect but effortless ballroom dance. It may be called nothing if
compared to the skills of dancing but an amazing experience of a free-spirited
and doppy couple ready to take the world in their jumping shoes.
Unfortunately, the dancing contest was called off by the Organizers
at the eleventh hour, thus, bringing our short stint to dancing at an abrupt
However, life had something even more beautiful in store for
us. We got married soon after and for fourteen consecutive years down the line,
we would jump in to be a part of dance in any and every of the cultural
functions in our family or friend circle. Our close few know about the ‘few’ amateur
steps that we’d together picked years ago and would not leave a stone unturned
to rope us in.
Last night, when we were impromptu dragged on to a Wedding Sangeet
stage by a distant relative, we unhesitatingly donned the floor with our
half-forgotten jive moves, sometimes bumping and sometimes stomping but all in
good taste. Burning the floor hot with dance is now just a matter of little
laughter and of lots of love!
Difficult times, TV jokes, magazine clippings, social gossips
or even routine arguments, it’s comforting to know that we can stay
unpretentiously silly and happily maladjusted to each other’s weakness.
We learnt to dance
like nobody’s watching and laugh like nobody’s holding!